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In our continuing series, “Surviving Deployments,” the author of wonderful one times one shares her tips for getting through her husband’s deployments.

It’s true. Deployments stink. I’m all for silver linings, but I’ve only found one when it comes to deployments – I can do drastic things to my hair that my husband would hate. Last time, I cut all my hair off and this time, well, I’m sitting here with my pretty bangs hanging my face. That’s it. That’s the silver lining.

I loved LB’s post below and agree with everything she said (and got some tips!). Stay busy, get involved, get on a schedule – these are daily mantras at my house. I thought I’d add on a few more things that helped me through my last deployment and are currently helping me through this one.

1) Find something new and exciting to be passionate about.

When J deployed for the first time, I quickly became passionate about two things – Hank, our Newfoundland puppy, and photography. I had just moved from New York City to small-town North Carolina and was (and still am) completely blown away by the beauty of this area. Nowhere else have I found such amazing landscapes and open wild land. And so, I bought myself a nice digital camera and set out with Hank to explore. And we discovered this area together and at the same time, became best friends (corny, I know, but oh so true). (more…)


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In this guest post, LB from the blog Olio discusses how she deals with those dreaded deployments.

Deployments suck, hands down. But when they are a fact of life (because you know that the life you will have together beyond the military is worth enduring them), you find ways to deal.

With a half-dozen deployments under my belt (and an address book filled with tree services, concrete layers, plumbers, electricians, vets and roofers), I can speak with some authority on “How to Barrel Through a Deployment as a Twentysomething Childless Dog Mom.” Please note, I’m not going to pretend to know what to do as a mom-to-be or a real mother, but I do think that some of my (long-winded) advice still applies.

1) Save some goodies for yourself.

Give yourself something (or lots of things) to look forward to. A facial. Watching that girlie movie. Catching up on TV shows. Learning to knit. Painting the bedroom. Taking a trip. Volunteering. Do one of those things not long after he leaves, sort of as a ritualistic induction into “You Time.” Then spread out the rest throughout the deployment. Now is the time to live for yourself – why not plan for some Gold Star days?

2) Stay busy. Busy busy busy.

Part of my “Me Time” launch ritual includes cleaning out kitchen cabinets or a closet within a week of his leaving. I find it therapeutic, perhaps because it helps me feel busy and like I’m in control of something.

I also always become way more focused on work during deployments. Then I pile on all of the “Somethings I’ve Saved For Myself,” and start developing a routine – dog, breakfast, work, dog, gym, eat, movie/tv/book, sleep – for the ordinary days. Weekends become my oyster, filled with paint samples or cuts of fabric after spending an hour at the dog park each morning. Again, I think this goes back to the “Feeling Like I’m in Control of Something” – if I can’t control when I see my husband, at least I control how happy my dog is and what my bedroom looks like!


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I’m excited to present a new series this week: “Surviving Deployments.” I’ve asked some of the strongest military wives I know to share their secrets for surviving their husbands’ deployments. At the end of the series I’ll include my own plan to get through the winter without J.

I hope you find these guest posts as motivating and moving as I did.

Are you a military spouse? Would you like to write a guest post on how you survive deployments? Contact me at pamelajaye [at] gmail [dot] com. I’d love to hear from you!

(image via flickr)

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